Are we the enemies of our own progress? We do seem intent on sabotaging ourselves while blaming others argues regular contributor Mell Nyoko. Here are some of the ways in which we impede our progress.

Nigerian church. Kenyan church. Wherever you are in the Diaspora, you will find – among the multicultural churches – many African churches filled with one particular nationality or another. Is single-nationality worship wise?

Many question the wisdom of interracial dating, but actually, we seem to have an equally big problem with dating between one African culture and another. Or rather, we might date outside our own culture but when it comes to marriage we are advised to stick with “our own”.

Fifty years ago an unmarried 25-year-old African woman was seen as odd. A husband and family was supposed to be your life’s goal. Thank God we’ve moved on. Or have we?

Do you recall watching a movie with your parents, talking and laughing, when suddenly a sex scene comes on which seems to drag on forever? That awkward silence as everyone tries to find the remote control, ashamed to be in the presence of such a scene.