Consent is not always clear-cut. It should be, but sometimes it’s not. In my friend’s view, no doesn’t always mean no. Sometimes it means persuade me. And that for me is where the challenge lies. When does coercion become rape?
“Hey, have you seen Twi porn before?” he asked. “You’re joking” was my response. Twi porn? He put in a DVD and yes; it was a porn film with a heterosexual Ghanaian couple speaking Twi throughout.
How do the various combinations – ‘one man, a mistress and at least one girlfriend’; ‘one woman, a steady partner, and several transient lovers’; ‘older man, a wife and his student girlfriend’ – co-exist with Christian values in the world’s most pious country?
Contrary to the common complaint, there are lots of eligible and available men in Africa for today’s young, modern, educated African women. So why can’t some young women find their match? There’s something else going on.
West African men on being stoic and trying to gauge who they can express themselves to when things get thick
Isn’t it incredibly odd that our societies do everything possible to get us married, yet make it really difficult to get divorced?