How does the black man who is selfish with his body find pleasure? Where does the selfishness come from? Perhaps his destructive kind of ecstasy contributes to the toxic way he relates with other races.
Black women across gender lines are pushing back against the gaze of patriarchy, policing and respectability by owning their bodies and exploring pleasure on their own terms. Ntombizikhona Valela explores how women are defining for themselves a pleasure aesthetic that centres on their humanity and reclaiming ownership of their bodies.
The different expressions of pleasure through the African body in colonial and post colonial Africa have been strongly regulated and silenced. Before the disruption that was colonialism, there were traditional spaces, both public and private, that allowed for the discussion of sexual matters and the expression of its pleasure. However, African sexual pleasure and dance are now being reclaimed as powerful forms of communication and expression.
What does being a non-monogamous, bisexual woman living in Ghana mean? How do I live out my love life? One woman honestly shares her experiences in this philosophical exploration of what love is, what it can be, how it can be felt or expressed outside the norms of what love has been made to be.
The case of pleasure and sex in Northern Nigeria is not a matter of forced conservatism or a robotic followership to a certain doctrine. It is an in-built self-censorship mechanism, and the people are comfortable with it as a way of life.
What do you think of when you think of BDSM? Whips and chains? A dungeon somewhere, with someone who cannot get out? Chapter 3 of Fifty Shades of Grey? Kink and BDSM are means by which you can explore various aspects of sex not previously open to you, and goes far wider than most people think.
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