Of all the ethnic stereotypes of Black male sexuality that exist, the one about black men (read African) being the most generously endowed and therefore the best lovers is among the most prevalent and persistent. Lineo Segoete considers the implications.
When you choose a family planning method, you need to know the facts. You can’t make your choices based on myths you’ve heard. Get the facts from your Obstetrics and gynecology or any other qualified health practitioner. We demystify some of the myths related to contraception.
The link between the masculine ego and male erection is well known. What is less known is that pursuing sexual performance at all costs might be damaging to one’s health. Dami Ajayi weighs in on the numerous local practices that Lagos men resort to ensure that they satisfy themselves and their partners within the four corners of their privacy.
If we are to curb high rates of HIV infections and pregnancy in schools, condoms must be accessible.
“The exhibition Eroticism and Intimacy: Faces, Places, and Paths seeks to confront the gap in the discourse on African women on the historic worldwide celebration. Co-curated by Violet Nantume, Peter Genza, and Serubiri Moses, the show opened on 8th March in Kampala, comprising 20 artists from 5 countries, and
explores the question of intimacy and erotic desire. Further, the exhibition proposes that African women can be emancipated, not only on world stages, but in sexual relations and intimate encounters.”
The internet is a great space for community and interaction but it has also become another site of violence against women, with rape games, cases of revenge porn and verbal abuse. Kagure Mugo explores this dark side.
Virginity is essentially a social construct which defines sex in very narrow ways and in this way provides an avenue for the policing, demonization and shaming women’s bodies. The incredible, often ridiculous, worth attached to a woman’s virginity, as well as sexuality, has derailed the general progress of womanhood.
“Reading extensively about love and tantric spirituality led me to some ground-breaking discoveries about female orgasms. As a result, through experimentation and perfect chemistry, my soul melted into another’s and I had my most torrential climax complete with a trip to outer-space and absolutely no control over my mind and body. Nothing feels greater and lighter. Unfortunately, many women do not know what that is like because for them sex is a chore: cook, clean, tend to children, give man his sex when he wants it, and go to sleep. It’s a huge tragedy worthy of an intervention.”
Why is it that people fake orgasms when it really does not help anyone? Social conventions have made it so that even when we do not enjoy a good time we do not want to be rude. All this does is make people who are bad in bed think they are good and waste all of our time.