Men have always had a monopoly over pleasure, more so in many of the patriarchal African societies. But times have changed. The availability of more information in the public space on such issues as sexuality and gender fluidity, alongside feminist theory, has served to challenge the established rules.
An ongoing visual sex and sexualities documentation project which came about because of a lack of positive, empowered and diverse images of African women, sex and sexualities.
Virginity is a social construct, which defines sex in narrow ways, resulting in the policing, stigmatization and shaming of women’s bodies. Sandy Abdelmessih says we should stop talking about hymens altogether, and instead be more concerned with pleasure; with our bodies and their extraordinary capabilities.
What do you think of when you think of BDSM? Whips and chains? A dungeon somewhere, with someone who cannot get out? Chapter 3 of Fifty Shades of Grey? Kink and BDSM are means by which you can explore various aspects of sex not previously open to you, and goes far wider than most people think.
Let’s Talk About Sex, Pleasure and Desire: In the series, This is Africa explores the expansive topics of sex, sexual pleasure, sexual satisfaction, and intimacy in the African context of cultural and religious conservatism, and gendered power inequality.
“Every woman is an unfolding narrative, continuously evolving with each phase of her life. Paying attention to this process leads to an awakening of self which, when harnessed, will inspire women to pursue their dreams and make a difference in the lives of others.” considers the writing of Dr Tererai Trent
Critics are questioning President Kagame’s Arsenal sponsorship, saying that he used half of the Sh8,4 billion (£62 million) in foreign aid provided by the UK on a frivolous pursuit and against the earmarked programmes the money is assigned for. However, both the UK aid agency Department for International Development and the Rwanda Development Board have rebuffed these claims.
Girls in ICT Rwanda celebrated the fifth anniversary of Ms Geek with the second edition of Ms Geek Africa, a competition that judges women on brilliance rather than beauty.
Women have as much love for sex and pleasure as men do but often we do not engage with this. Whereas you can find 50 strip clubs for men in a city, women engaging with exotic dancers is always seen as a major event, despite the fact that there is a throbbing market for it.