Wairimũ Mũrĩithi writes on womxn’s pleasure (or not) in Kenya’s public imaginary.
The case of pleasure and sex in Northern Nigeria is not a matter of forced conservatism or a robotic followership to a certain doctrine. It is an in-built self-censorship mechanism, and the people are comfortable with it as a way of life.
I am here, and my pleasure matters. Motlatsi Motseoile explores the intricacies of sex in gay relationships, and how being a bottom is often mired in shame and ridicule.
Men have always had a monopoly over pleasure, more so in many of the patriarchal African societies. But times have changed. The availability of more information in the public space on such issues as sexuality and gender fluidity, alongside feminist theory, has served to challenge the established rules.
An ongoing visual sex and sexualities documentation project which came about because of a lack of positive, empowered and diverse images of African women, sex and sexualities.
Virginity is a social construct, which defines sex in narrow ways, resulting in the policing, stigmatization and shaming of women’s bodies. Sandy Abdelmessih says we should stop talking about hymens altogether, and instead be more concerned with pleasure; with our bodies and their extraordinary capabilities.
Warning: article contains nudity. Black women’s bodies have been sites for the world’s battles for so long that we have forgotten how to imagine them as sites of pleasure; a space where we can own it rather than give it away.
Ugandan artist Stacey Gillian Abe’s latest work, titled ‘Enyasa’ is a series of sculptures that explore “the difference between food satisfaction and sexual satisfaction and also relating it to the double standards in society”.
Let’s Talk About Sex, Pleasure and Desire: In the series, This is Africa explores the expansive topics of sex, sexual pleasure, sexual satisfaction, and intimacy in the African context of cultural and religious conservatism, and gendered power inequality.