Posts tagged sex

The decriminalisation of the private use of cannabis in South Africa could – and should – pave the way for the decriminalization of sex work, says Zanta Nkumane.

Pegging is not high on heterosexual couples’ list of things to do in bed, but maybe it should be. The act of trying something new and subverting gender roles in the sack can lead to increased pleasure and healthy conversations for both parties.

Hook-up culture, whether we acknowledge it or not, is prevalent. People are having casual sex all the time, yet there seems to be a lack of common understanding on the rules of engagement. With the help of a group of 30 somethings, we established a few universal dos and don’ts.

How does the black man who is selfish with his body find pleasure? Where does the selfishness come from? Perhaps his destructive kind of ecstasy contributes to the toxic way he relates with other races.

A Black cis bisexual femme shares her experiences with anxiety disorder, and antidepressant medication, and how the treatment has impacted on her sex life. The medication has had side effects including a lack of sexual desire, orgasmic dysfunction (anorgasmia) and sexual frustration.

Black women across gender lines are pushing back against the gaze of patriarchy, policing and respectability by owning their bodies and exploring pleasure on their own terms. Ntombizikhona Valela explores how women are defining for themselves a pleasure aesthetic that centres on their humanity and reclaiming ownership of their bodies.

The different expressions of pleasure through the African body in colonial and post colonial Africa have been strongly regulated and silenced. Before the disruption that was colonialism, there were traditional spaces, both public and private, that allowed for the discussion of sexual matters and the expression of its pleasure. However, African sexual pleasure and dance are now being reclaimed as powerful forms of communication and expression.

What does being a non-monogamous, bisexual woman living in Ghana mean? How do I live out my love life? One woman honestly shares her experiences in this philosophical exploration of what love is, what it can be, how it can be felt or expressed outside the norms of what love has been made to be.

Wairimũ Mũrĩithi writes on womxn’s pleasure (or not) in Kenya’s public imaginary.

The case of pleasure and sex in Northern Nigeria is not a matter of forced conservatism or a robotic followership to a certain doctrine. It is an in-built self-censorship mechanism, and the people are comfortable with it as a way of life.