Most women who opt for sex toys prefer vibrators above all the other options available to them for self-pleasure. Vibrators are used for clitoral stimulation yet – absurdly – they are designed to resemble phalluses.
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Lifestyle Switching it up: Trying the act of pegging
Pegging is not high on heterosexual couples’ list of things to do in bed, but maybe it should be. The act of trying something new and subverting gender roles in the sack can lead to increased pleasure and healthy conversations for both parties.
Lifestyle Sex positivity 101: It is not just about getting laid
When people hear the term “sex positivity”, they think it is about having sex with everyone all the time, or having sex in wild and messy ways. In fact, sex positivity is about having a healthy and fulfilling sex life – no matter what that looks like, says Kagure Mugo.
Lifestyle Hook up Etiquette: The dos and don’ts of one-night stands
Hook-up culture, whether we acknowledge it or not, is prevalent. People are having casual sex all the time, yet there seems to be a lack of common understanding on the rules of engagement. With the help of a group of 30 somethings, we established a few universal dos and don’ts.
Lifestyle The good boy and the good black: a look at race, desire and lust
How does the black man who is selfish with his body find pleasure? Where does the selfishness come from? Perhaps his destructive kind of ecstasy contributes to the toxic way he relates with other races.
Lifestyle Dear Woman, Understand Your Body. If You Don’t, Your Partner Won’t
Masturbation is natural and healthy and benefits our relationships with ourselves and our partners in more ways than one, says Joyline Maenzanise
Politics and Society Understanding sex and pleasure beyond the cis-gendered body
Sex and pleasure are often so much more than what cis-heteronormativity and even homonormativity teaches. Kgothatso Motshele explores how we can look at our bodies and pleasure through a different lens.
Lifestyle Nationalising Sex, Dictating Sex: Womxn’s Pleasure (or not) in Kenya’s Public Imaginary
Wairimũ Mũrĩithi writes on womxn’s pleasure (or not) in Kenya’s public imaginary.
Lifestyle The sex lives of Northern Nigeria
The case of pleasure and sex in Northern Nigeria is not a matter of forced conservatism or a robotic followership to a certain doctrine. It is an in-built self-censorship mechanism, and the people are comfortable with it as a way of life.